Sex in long term relationships is that thing that gets lots of attention, is it avoided, is it enjoyed, is romance and sexuality shared to heighten novelty, or does a couple work on creating novelty within. Feeling desired is an important balance that can flip between an obligation and a demand and embracing the delight of still knowing you are sexy and it is a pleasure you still share. This story felt worth sharing because it marries the difficulties and pleasure of relationship. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/oct/24/how-we-stay-together-im-always-surprised-when-people-dont-talk-about-sex-with-their-partners https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/how-we-stay-togeth
It feels a little crazy the amount of people I meet who say their previous therapist couldn't really talk about sex. For me it's in the work with every adult I work with to a greater or lesser degree, it always has been and it's why I then chose to do an advanced training in this area. It's also about making things accessible and easy to discuss and to open up. The exciting thing is there are now so many brilliantly people working and educating others in this field. Few have achieved more fame than the compelling, frank, challenging, sexy and engaging Esther Perel. For any that have missed her do check out this talk.
